Today I’m talking about how to build confidence as a woman, because I’ve learned over the years how important having confidence is.

In fact I don’t like to dwell on the past, but one thing I’d change from my past if I could is the level of confidence that I had because it affected so much. (I sometimes think how interesting it would be if we were allowed to go back or start younger with what we know now.)

But, I didn’t realize I had a problem with confidence back then. I’d had a friend mention it once, but I was confused by it and shrugged it off. I’d thought that since I knew I looked alright and didn’t constantly hang my head I was alright. But, boy was I wrong!

A lack of self esteem or confidence doesn’t always show it’s face that boldly. Sometimes it instead shows in the choices we make, like the ones that clearly show how much we value ourselves.

So, I say from experience, please value yourself! Stop allowing others to mistreat you or to give back to you less than you deserve. And, you do deserve the best – but it’s up to YOU to see that. This realization has to come from within you for it to make a difference in your life.

Building confidence in yourself is one of the most important things you can do for you, because it can affect pretty much every part of your life. Do you find yourself settling for less than you deserve? Do people often ask why you allow something in your life? If so, know that you have the right to show confidence and to choose what’s best for you.

And, don’t think that this isn’t something you can do or that it won’t make a difference for you. Trust me you can and it will. If I could change how I saw myself, become more confident, and start believing in myself, so can you!

Now, let me share the four things that’ll help you learn how to build confidence as a woman.

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How to build confidence as a woman (4 big tips)

Throughout life, there are many things that can affect how a woman feels about herself and therefore the amount of confidence she has. And, I’ve personally wrote these four tips to help women’s confidence because as a woman myself I know the specific things a woman goes through that affect her.

If this helps men too then all the better, I just have a passion to lift up and help women with things like this. For years and years women have been held back, mistreated, and made to feel less than, and though I don’t like to dwell on negative I think it’s important that we recognize the effects of this that have been passed down to us.

Yes we have come a long way in society already, but we still have a ways to go and are still recovering from the ideas that women should be suppressed and are less than. Neither of these are true – women come from the same divine place that men do and have just as much to contribute to this world. We just need to remember this and lift our heads up despite anyone that might think otherwise still.

Know that you are loved and have value. Perhaps you had others mistreat you or treat you less than or like you’re stupid and it had nothing to do with the fact that you’re a woman, and if so the same message applies here. You are not what anyone else has acted like you are, and your worth is not determined by any person here on this Earth. It was determined long ago by the divine, by God your maker who loves you so much, and no one can take that away.

Be lifted up fellow women, for as we lift ourselves up and believe in ourselves and our worth we can heal and be set free to live lives we enjoy.

May these four big tips on how to build confidence as a woman help you…

Build confidence in yourself by lifting yourself up

Let’s start by talking about how you can build confidence in yourself by lifting yourself up and allowing yourself to be the real you.

First, I want you to imagine the perfect grown up being there for you as a child to build you up. How would they act and what would they do? Would they say kind things to you, things that would lift you up? Would they show you love? Would they tell you you deserve the best and can do anything? Great. Now, YOU be that person that does all of this for you.

As you do this you’ll begin to love yourself and build your confidence up. And the great thing about this is that if you didn’t get enough of this as a child, you get to nurture that inner child by giving it to yourself now.

Tell your inner child, “It’s okay. I’ve got you, and everything’s okay. I love you, we are loved and we are enough”. This is powerful! Sometimes we can’t begin to understand the impact that life has had on us, and we don’t realize that we need to heal and fill in what was missing.

I believe that if we never had to go through anything in life that made us feel less than and not good enough we’d have perfect confidence – that it’s life, things we go through, that strips us of it.

Just like if you imagine yourself in heaven as a spirit. Do you think you’d lack confidence or feel complete and enough? I just know that when people talk about near death experiences, they talk about feeling complete and at peace.

So although it’s common not to have enough confidence, it’s not our natural state. Which is why, if you’ve been wondering how to build confidence you should try to get back to that natural state you’d be in if life here on earth were perfect.

Would you doubt yourself? No way. You’d have no reason not to believe in yourself!

If you’d had the perfect cheerleaders cheering you on throughout your whole life and everything was great, do you really think you’d lack confidence, think you’re less than anyone, or think you aren’t good enough? Heck no! You’d probably be proud and care less what others think of you.

So, work on yourself in any way that helps get you back to the real you – to your true authentic self that knows that the people that are really for her will find her and therefore isn’t afraid to just be herself.

But, it’s your choice. You can either work on yourself now, or perhaps look back on your life later and wish you’d truly believed in yourself and lived your life for you.

how to build confidence as a woman

Increase your confidence by getting to know yourself

Now, let’s talk about how you can increase your confidence by getting to know yourself.

At some point in our lives we begin to see what’s most important and what’s wasting our time here. We begin to see what’s worth working on and what’s worth letting go.

Being afraid to just be ourselves is one of those things that’s worth working on. And as someone who’s done it, I can tell you it’s well worth the price of spending time working on yourself, getting to know yourself, and building yourself back up! You won’t regret it.

So, take some time to get to know YOU. Ask yourself some hard questions like, “Why do I really think I lack self confidence? What might have happened in my life that caused me to lose confidence in myself?”

These are worthwhile questions! Ask, and listen to your inner self for answers. Then, after dealing with that and healing some things, begin to work on reversing it.

Build yourself up. Be kind to yourself. Stop being so hard on yourself. Don’t be judgmental of yourself. Forgive yourself, and don’t expect perfection from yourself. And, most of all, love and accept yourself!

You can do this.

Use self-love to build confidence as a woman

Next, let’s talk about using self-love to build confidence as a woman.

You might dream of love and acceptance from others, but the one you most need this unconditional love and acceptance from is YOU. (As crazy as it seems, it’s true.)

And, the peace that’ll come from this self love and acceptance is unbelievable. All the trying so hard to get others to love and accept you just stops. Because now you love yourself, and that’s enough.

You know that if someone else doesn’t truly love and accept you, it’s their loss and not worth fretting over. Those that are meant for you are out there and will find you. Plus, you’re no longer afraid of being alone, as you know it doesn’t mean you’re unlovable or that anything is wrong with you.

How can you be unlovable if you love yourself, right? And, how can you be unlovable if the Universe or God thought so much of you to take the time to add you into it’s creation? Hmmm. This sounds like love to me! It sounds like you’re wanted to me!

So, work on reversing the damage that seems to naturally happen to us throughout our lives. It’s a process, but it’s worth it. Work on learning how to build confidence as a woman and on loving yourself for real.

how to build confidence as a woman

Recognize your internal power & believe in yourself!

You have more power than you think you do, and if you continue to work on yourself you’ll be able to recognize your internal power as well as believe in yourself. And both of these things will lift you up to who you’re meant to be, or rather who you really are.

The ideas that we’re unlovable, not enough, unable to have high self confidence like some, and aren’t worthy are illusions – and they’re B.S. That’s just the truth of it. And if these illusions are in your mind, you have the power to rid yourself of them. That’s the good news!

You have more power than you’ve been led to believe you have, and this is golden information. Don’t let anyone, or life, take that away from you. Your internal power is your gift. Your ability to control your mind, think how you want, and be who you want is your right.

Often times in life we feel powerless, like we have no control over what’s happening to us. But, the more you learn about yourself, the more you’ll learn that you have so much power!

So believe in yourself, be who you want to be, and create the life that you want to have. You can do this! Hold your head up high no matter what life has dealt you, and realize that it all has the power to simply polish you into what you’re meant to be.

Closing thoughts: How to build confidence as a woman & improve your life

I hope this blog post on how to build confidence as a woman has helped you! May you begin to love yourself and know that you deserve the best, so that you’ll never settle for less than this.

And, may you be brave enough to work on yourself and to use these self confidence tips to build yourself up and have the life you truly want and deserve.

It’s yours for the taking! YOU have the power within, and you can do this.

(And if you want more support with this or other things, join in on our women’s forum where we support each other in a positive environment online.)

Additional resources

If you found these tips on how to build confidence as a woman helpful, I believe my post on improving self worth will also help you. The information on it is below, and you can click its title to start reading!

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I also think my Daily Self Love Journal for Women will help you, as self love and acceptance are part of self confidence. It’s available on Amazon!

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And finally, if you’d like more help with confidence Chris Odogwu has written an article on MUO titled 8 Apps to Build Your Self-Confidence and Improve Your Wellness. So if you’re into helpful apps, you might check it out.

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